One of the biggest taboos is our society is asking for help. Whether it’s running a household, starting a business, or having a baby. We feel ashamed of our need for others, and think that we’re supposed to be independent superheroes all of the time. Newsflash: workaholics aren't heroes.
There is an underlying thought that if you can’t do it yourself it means that you’ll be seen as a failure. This expectation to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders and look good doing it. When asked how their day is going, most people boast about how busy they are. And yet, this unnecessary pressure leads to anxiety, disempowerment and a feeling of inadequacy.
There is no shame in asking for help, no matter how big or small the issue. It is unreasonable to burden the stress of being too proud to get support. And no matter how amazing you are, you can’t (and shouldn’t) do everything yourself.
“You can do anything, but not everything.”
- David Allen
Small business owners are especially vulnerable to the ineffectiveness of solo-managing, performing each and every task themselves. Yet being able to delegate effectively will allow you to spend your time in a more meaningful way. Like a weight being lifted, it will free you from the stress of everything having equal priority.
As a reformed control freak (well, mostly reformed!), I can assure you that the freedom gained from drafting in assistance in any aspect of your life is wholly rewarding. It allows you to breathe again. It gives you time where before there was none. It lets you refocus your energies and stop the busyness.
Remember, if you’re struggling it is not a reflection of your inadequacies. It’s okay to feel vulnerable, and it takes courage to relinquish control. Focus on your strengths and let others take care of the rest. Learn how to delegate; I promise you, there will be no egos damaged in the process.
In our next post we'll take a look at the practical steps you can take towards building your business village.
Are you having trouble outsourcing? How are you working towards delegating?